First Communion, First Confession: Bless Me Father for I have a Fake Tan

By Donna Jones & Kerry Cue

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Tiaras, white princess dresses, salon hair, make up and fake tans. I am not describing a wedding party or a debut set. Today, in Australia, some 7 year old girls go through the full ‘bridal makeover package’ to make their First Holy Communion.

Do parents realise they are sexualising their daughters for a religious ceremony? Or, is the sexualisation of young girls in our culture so endemic, parents do not think about it at all?

So girls learn at 7 years of age that:

– their real skin is not good enough (They have beautiful skin)

– their real cheeks are too rosy (They must be made to look like an adult)

– their real hair is too ordinary (They must have supermodel hair)

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This is not just a BODY IMAGE issue. This story reflects a shift in values and connection to community. In his Theory of Cognitive Development Piaget used the term ‘decentering’, to define a child’s ability to think outside him or herself, to think of others. This stage stretches from 7 – 12 years of age. So at the very point where children start to think how others might feel in a situation, we turn the spotlight on them. We create little narcissists.

Sad, isn’t it.

As for the tiara, that’s fine. Every young girl is a princess.

Photo Source: Pinterest.

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1964: The year fashion promoted a revolution, not just a brand!

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dark green quote 1Clothes make the man but often imprison the woman.
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………………………….Kerry Cue, Sibylesque (Written for this post).

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This is the story of a Fashion Revolution

1. How our mothers dressed in 1960.

1 Melbourne Cup 1960  island continent blog

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2. How we dressed in 1964.

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3. We wore the same clothes as our mothers and the same UNDERWEAR too!

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4. Ads were patronising. This was pre-feminism! Women, apparently, didn’t have brains back then.

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5. Mothers bought girdles for their girls, but they were a fashion statement!

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6. Bloomers could be wore over the ‘tarty’ suspender belts!

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7. 1964: The revolution begins ….

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8. 1965: Now hemlines go up, Up, UP!

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9. 1966: Mother cannot wear this new mini-skirt fashion!

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10. 1967: The mini-skirt becomes the hottest fashion.

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11. 1968: The mini-skirt goes mainstream

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12. 1969: The mini-skirt defines Pop Culture

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13. Don’t forget the boots …

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14. 1970: Mama don’t rule no more!

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Photo Source: 1. Islandcontinent blog, 2. Queensland State Library Archive, 3. barbarafalconernewhall blog, 4. pinterest, 5.eBay, 6. eBay, 7. Flikr Paul Galesko photostream, 8. The Vine, 9. vintageeveryday blog, 10. pinterest, 11. 63highlanders blog, 12. goretro blog, 13 eBay, 14. dellamoda blog

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The Ascent of Man or, you took your time!

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An American monkey, after getting drunk on brandy, would never touch it again, and thus is much wiser than most men.purple quote 2

…………………….Charles Darwin, Brainyquote

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Photo Source: Collage from IFLS Facebook Page.

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On a Happy Hormone High or, Oops! Where did I put the baby?

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Photo source: Social History Archives, 1953

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The Diet Riot

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Navy quote 1My Diet Plan: Make all my friends cup cakes.Navy quote 2

The fatter they get, the thinner I look.

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This is the latest diet … it’s so mathematical, but so out of proportion.

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Photo source: moviesinbw blog.

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How old is old in Hollywood? You don’t want to know.

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purple quote 1“I wish that other women would let other women age gracefully. Women take it as something personal that they are getting older. They think that they failed somehow by not staying 25. This is crazy to me because my belief is that it’s a privilege to get older – not everybody gets to get older’
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……………………………..Cameron Diaz, actress, 41.

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In the 1967 film, The Graduate, Anne Bancroft played Mrs Robinson, a bored-housewife living in a loveless marriage. When the 21-year-old Ben Braddock played by Dustin Hoffman visits the Robinsons, urged on by his parents (Mr Robinson is a partner in a legal firm with Ben’s father), he is seduced by the much older Mrs Robinson. Ben, however, falls in love with Elaine, the Robinson’s daughter, and in a climactic ending, the young couple run off together.

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At the time, Anne Bancroft was 36-years-old and, in fact, only 6 years older than Dustin Hoffman. So, historically, in Hollywood you are branded ‘the older woman’ at 36 years of age.

Forty-five plus years on The Graduate highlights a more disturbing issue. In the film, Mrs Robinson is a ‘formidable’ character. There is a word you do not hear any more. ‘Formidable’ applied to an older woman in a position of authority. The ‘formidable woman’ was matronly and someone to reckon with. She stood for definite principles. She didn’t tolerate fools and often held the position of Hospital Matron, Head Mistress or, even, the family Matriarch. When we were young girls many ‘formidable women’ – Reverend Mother, for starters –  had our measure. Where are they today? These days, older women, who exercise authority are described as ‘ball breakers’, ‘old dragons’ or, in the case of the matriarch, ‘a Control Freak’. Is it the ‘management team’ and their spin that has replaced the ‘formidable woman in the workplace? Has the mass movement of women out of the home and into the workplace in the 1970s unthroned the matriarch? Curious, isn’t it?

Anne Bancroft, 70, 2001

Anne Bancroft, 70, 2001

At 70 years of age Anne Bancroft (above) still looked impressive. She won an Oscar in 1962 for her role in The Miracle Worker. She was happily married to her second husband, Mel Brooks, for 45 years. They had one son. Sadly, she died in 2005.

Photo Source: Film Promotion Pic and Salon.com

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Dating for Grown Ups

by Kerry Cue

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When virtual reality gets cheaper than dating, society is doomed. 

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………………..Dogbert, Scott Adams Dilbert Cartoon

 

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Photograph: Social History Archives.

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